When I first got diagnosed with adhd my mom was sure she had it too (reasonably).

Its been interesting to see her perspective shift now that I’m on good medication and days that I don’t take it contrast strongly.

I think it’s hard to understand unless you experience it or are very close to someone who does. Yes, lots of people can relate to lots of the symptoms.

The only way I’ve managed to get close to explaining it is through control. I don’t have control of my own brain. The depth of the frustration that comes from it can’t be explained or imagined.

She’s begun to see the worst of it and had realised she underestimated the severity of my symptoms and case. But she’s also accepting it and beginning to understand, and I’m so thankful and pleased that she is.

jeaniefranklins:

lucidapathy:

ophanic:

props to stem people wtf! i can bullshit my way through any english essay because literally u just have to say stuff. but for stem paper u have to say stuff AND it has to be true. wack. 

props to hums people wtf! i can bullshit my way through any stem essay because literally u just have to repeat stuff. but for a hums paper u have to say stuff AND it has to be new stuff from your brain. wack. 

#FINALLY the solidarity we need to defeat business majors

(via rosegloss)

now what?

Maybe you have dermatillomania, or OCD, or ADHD (like me!) and picked at every bump on your skin, leaving nasty, red, bumpier skin behind.

Maybe you’ve looked through google for what to do about it and all you can find is that you shouldn’t pick acne, but that ship sailed two hours ago and that feels like an impossible feat because your brain isn’t “normal” and you don’t mean to pick it but you do anyway and now you’re here.

I finally used my own experience and then dug a little deeper into the internet and found something that’s made my skin look way better literally less than three hours later, and woke up the next day - that’s today! - with skin that looks better than it usually does 3-4 days later. 

Just a warning, it took me 1.5-2 hours to do all of this after picking, but if you’ve got time I recommend trying some of these methods and see if any work for you!

-note: none of this is actually professional advice or anything it’s just something that worked for me, so if you have any doubts/allergies please be careful!!

Step 1: Cold shower (Cleanser and Salicylic/Glycolic Acid)

This is totally just from experience, but I always get nasty scabs from my fingernails digging into my skin (and your fingernails are totally dirty and could leave you with infections, which has thankfully never happened to me but please take care of your skin!). Have a COLD - not freezing, but it should be distinctly cold and not lukewarm - shower, which should help calm your skin down a little bit. 

Use your face cleanser, which is always softer on your skin than anything for your body, and any salicylic OR glycolic acid products that are for your face for the same reason. 

I was using the Fresh Farmacy cleanser, but just switched to the Spectro dry skin cleanser (that’s just their site, but I use the green one that I got at Shoppers Drug Mart) since my body doesn’t love Lush and I’m allergic to fragrances. 

I use glycolic acid to exfoliate my face, since my skin is pretty sensitive, and have the NeoStrata glycolic cleanser (that’s the closest I can find to it), but a salicylic acid product should work just as well.

Step 2: Ice

This is pretty self explanatory. Grab some ice packs and press them onto the nasty red areas, holding it directly to the skin until it’s too cold to leave it there (this is probably going to have people yelling at me but it’s the only way that works for me). Just keep moving them around until the area is less red and bumpy. Pro tip - if it takes a while, put on some gloves.

Step 3: Aloe Vera gel

I use 100% aloe Vera gel as a moisturizer, and it cools skin and locks in moisture which is exactly what your skin needs at that point so lather it on if you’ve got some. Online also suggests using some cucumber slices, so feel free to try that out if you don’t have any.

Step 4: Honey mask

This was the first time I ever tried this and my skin looks good so I think it helped but maybe it didn’t, take it with a grain of salt, but I mixed honey with some turmeric and cinnamon and lathered it onto the spots with a Q-tip. I melted the honey for 10 secs, could’ve probably done less, and just stirred the other two in. Be careful with turmeric because, as I read later, it can turn you yellow (which didn’t happen to me but everyone’s different). Leave it on for 10-15 minutes then wash it off with a damp cloth that can be stained yellow, then throw on some more aloe to get the moisture in again. If you don’t have aloe still, a regular moisturizer should also work, but you’ll lose the cooling aspect of it.

Then because I’m also working on all of this, some preventative steps that help me not pick my skin as badly:

1. Always covering the area at home

I pick at my shoulders, chest, and back, so I always have an oversized tshirt on - not seeing it makes it harder to do.

2. Cover/reduce/get rid of mirrors

I used to have a million mirrors, but I got rid of any magnifying ones when this became a problem. I had to cover my large mirror with a sheet so that I can move it to see outfits but can’t get close enough to do makeup and see dots - my other mirror keeps me a foot away since it’s on a shelf.

3. Shower in the dark

Showers were the worst for me, especially since our lights amplified problem areas - I light a nice candle and enjoy a shower in that plus a nightlight, which is also nice for the self care aspects I guess. Mostly I just can’t see all the nasty spots.

That’s what I’ve found through my efforts to stop picking my skin, so use any ideas that seem helpful and please leave more if you can think of any!

Sources:

https://www.wikihow.com/Remove-the-Redness-of-a-Pimple (usually this is not credible but apparently this lady is a cosmetologist and honestly it worked for me so I’ll take it - but take this with a grain of salt)

https://www.wikihow.com/Get-Rid-of-Pimple-Redness-Overnight (same disclaimer as above)

Also both of these sources had sources that I didn’t look too deep into since I was panicking about going out with ugly skin, but if you’re worried look into them! And maybe let me know if they’re awful lies I’d love to hear from people who actually know something!

Listening to old albums and songs is like visiting an old version of yourself

geekandmisandry:

Hey, this might seem random but…If you don’t cry, that’s ok. Like, it can be good to cry and you shouldn’t be ashamed of doing it…but you shouldn’t feel bad if you don’t cry either. Like if you don’t cry when you are “supposed to” ie sad movies or funerals, that’s ok. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad about it, you can be sad and not cry.

Again, crying is something that no person of any gender should be shamed for doing, but also no one deserves to be made to feel bad because they aren’t crying when someone else is or expects them to.

Leave them alone.

(via mylordshesacactus)

I’m so excited since I finally got into a clinic after a six month waitlist and we’re experimenting to find better meds and they have workshops to help with getting your life together and I’ll be so productive once we figure this all out and my future looks sososo much better than it did before

I think a lot about how c is literally the most useless letter like why did someone decide we needed it

supremelynova:

This whole dumbass update and porn blogs are still following me

Update: a porn blog reblogged a post from me but deleted the actual post to add a link instead

This whole dumbass update and porn blogs are still following me

moghedien:

Artemis and Apollo are 1) archery gods, 2) twins, and 3) immortal so they definitely regularly just shoot each other in response to like, bad puns and other incredibly petty shit

(via mylordshesacactus)

staff:

Since its founding in 2007, Tumblr has always been a place for wide open, creative self-expression at the heart of community and culture. To borrow from our founder David Karp, we’re proud to have inspired a generation of artists, writers, creators, curators, and crusaders to redefine our culture and to help empower individuality.

Over the past several months, and inspired by our storied past, we’ve given serious thought to who we want to be to our community moving forward and have been hard at work laying the foundation for a better Tumblr. We’ve realized that in order to continue to fulfill our promise and place in culture, especially as it evolves, we must change. Some of that change began with fostering more constructive dialogue among our community members. Today, we’re taking another step by no longer allowing adult content, including explicit sexual content and nudity (with some exceptions).  

Let’s first be unequivocal about something that should not be confused with today’s policy change: posting anything that is harmful to minors, including child pornography, is abhorrent and has no place in our community. We’ve always had and always will have a zero tolerance policy for this type of content. To this end, we continuously invest in the enforcement of this policy, including industry-standard machine monitoring, a growing team of human moderators, and user tools that make it easy to report abuse. We also closely partner with the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children and the Internet Watch Foundation, two invaluable organizations at the forefront of protecting our children from abuse, and through these partnerships we report violations of this policy to law enforcement authorities. We can never prevent all bad actors from attempting to abuse our platform, but we make it our highest priority to keep the community as safe as possible.

So what is changing?

Posts that contain adult content will no longer be allowed on Tumblr, and we’ve updated our Community Guidelines to reflect this policy change. We recognize Tumblr is also a place to speak freely about topics like art, sex positivity, your relationships, your sexuality, and your personal journey. We want to make sure that we continue to foster this type of diversity of expression in the community, so our new policy strives to strike a balance.

Why are we doing this?

It is our continued, humble aspiration that Tumblr be a safe place for creative expression, self-discovery, and a deep sense of community. As Tumblr continues to grow and evolve, and our understanding of our impact on our world becomes clearer, we have a responsibility to consider that impact across different age groups, demographics, cultures, and mindsets. We spent considerable time weighing the pros and cons of expression in the community that includes adult content. In doing so, it became clear that without this content we have the opportunity to create a place where more people feel comfortable expressing themselves.

Bottom line: There are no shortage of sites on the internet that feature adult content. We will leave it to them and focus our efforts on creating the most welcoming environment possible for our community.

So what’s next?

Starting December 17, 2018, we will begin enforcing this new policy. Community members with content that is no longer permitted on Tumblr will get a heads up from us in advance and steps they can take to appeal or preserve their content outside the community if they so choose. All changes won’t happen overnight as something of this complexity takes time.

Another thing, filtering this type of content versus say, a political protest with nudity or the statue of David, is not simple at scale. We’re relying on automated tools to identify adult content and humans to help train and keep our systems in check. We know there will be mistakes, but we’ve done our best to create and enforce a policy that acknowledges the breadth of expression we see in the community.

Most importantly, we’re going to be as transparent as possible with you about the decisions we’re making and resources available to you, including more detailed information, product enhancements, and more content moderators to interface directly with the community and content.

Like you, we love Tumblr and what it’s come to mean for millions of people around the world. Our actions are out of love and hope for our community. We won’t always get this right, especially in the beginning, but we are determined to make your experience a positive one.

Jeff D’Onofrio
CEO

thoodleoo:

you know what’s one of the most peaceful sights in the whole world? ancient ruins with few tourists in them that have started to grow over just a bit with grass and flowers. it’s like nature and humanity are coexisting in peace and it’s quiet enough that you can almost hear the ghosts of the past walking by you and tbh it’s 👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌